Betrayed by the Angel

While reading this article it really hit me that some people are raised so differently and so oppressed by "how women should be" that it is almost scary. Debra Anne Davis was so afraid to stand up to men that she endured what no one ever should, from a young age of getting gabbed with a pencil, to not such a young age and being raped. It almost makes me angry that someone could have such little back bone to stop these things, and to not even think that the person was deserving of punishment for their actions. I was raised completely different, someone tries to hurt me, you don't stand for that. I truly feel for her in how much pain and confusion she must have had to go through with everything in her life, no one should have to deal with that and I think that parents should teach their children young that simple fact. Injuring another person is never okay, it may have been far more accepted in the past for men to dominate women but we are in the 20th century now and there is no tolerance, everyone should know and accept it. I am glad that Debra finally "grew some balls" and was able to be rude at times, even if she doesn't exactly know when to be and when not to, but things take time to master and I believe she is strong and will make it.

We all stuffed our faces

I hope everyone had a fantastic thanksgiving. Since it is a rather big deal in our country I figured I should have a post about it and how my family responds to everything. I go to two houses for every holiday, my step family and then my dads side, and both are extremely different. My step family is far more traditional with the roles that everyone plays. My Grandma does allllll of the cooking, no one is allowed in the kitchen unless they are over the age of 13, a girl, and putting something quickly away. All of the guys stay in a stupor in the living room watching football until the call is sounded to go pray before they can load up on the potatoes and turkey. When it is time to clean it is yet again all of the women, my Aunts get all the leftovers into containers and do the dishes while the men fall asleep. These traditions are even known to the younger ones in the family, all the girls are taught young to find little ways to help with the food or cleaning while all the boys are told to stay outside and out of the way. Now my dads side is a bit different, and I like this way far more. When I was younger everyone would gather at my grandparents and my grandma would do most of the cooking, my grandpa helping in what she couldn't carry or reach. Everyone tried to help, including my uncles, my grandma is just to stubborn to accept help. When it was time to clean everyone was in there at some point, no one got out of doing something. Now we all go to my Uncles house, my aunt does most of the food preparation the day before, and once we are all there it is my uncle in the kitchen doing the finishing touches and yet again everyone cleans. I personal prefer my dads side method better because everyone should have to pitch in, the women are not any more special at cooking and cleaning and the men should recognize that.

maid to order

I found this article rather interesting and funny at parts. It never occurred to me really how big of an issue cleaning could be in households, or how maids must feel. Getting down on your hands and knees to clean a floor is sometimes a must, yes, but I don't think it should be a constant, and a never if you feel like you are nothing and would need to 'crawl under that table and start gnawing away at her ankles' to be noticed for your work. The feminine mystique was rather degrading too, not entering men into the cleaning equation, and saying women should be able to keep up the home even if they are working, like it is our duty, psh. Everyone should be taught from a young age how to take care of a home, themselves, not to order a maid about. The essential skills gained from cleaning and keeping a house in order will help anyone in their future, it teaches the actual skills, responsibility, and respect because you know how difficult it can be. The upper classes are kinda ruining these things because they are relying so heavily on maid companies to do all of their housework, and then their children grow to think that is the only way. It is providing jobs I must say, but it is ruining our society. I can imagine that it is getting more and more difficult to keep up with everything in the house since more people are out and about, and house size is increasing all the time. But if you manage your time, and have everyone pitch in (not just mom) then it wouldn't be so difficult.

hey I would marry a feminist...male form

The article "Who Wants to Marry a Feminist" was rather empowering. The struggles she went through are things that make sense for a stereotypical mind set of feminist woman, but how she moves past it all is amazing. It is rather annoying that a reader of her articles was angry that she was marrying, if you are for woman power it doesn't make sense to be against marriage because that is one more place that we have worked so hard to gain our rights. It is nice that she managed to find a guy who is willing to accept her views, and not be a prick but actually pitch in around the house. I can relate a lot to her things her family said, like her grandfather being worried about the food. My family asks all the time who is cleaning or cooking and at times will tsk at me when I say it is my boyfriend. The tax person was another annoying factor of this. If it had happened to me I would have told them that I am not just a spouse, she is the one making more money, and should have equal rights on the paper. Her view on marriage is something that everyone in my opinion should feel, its about the emotions and companionship, well yea sex too, but its not because thats what was expected or whats the norm, which was nice to finally see one of the authors be positive about marriage. Over all though I liked this article because she seemed happy about her choices and life even though there are people who don't understand.

Ok really now, dating is just to complicated

So, I went on a date this weekend, and realized that there are so many things that go into this whole first date dealio and I don't get why. You get super nervous even though you already know the person somewhat, you freak out about what to wear, then heaven knows all the little stupid rules and guidelines you try to go by. I have no idea what to be doing half the time, if I should be telling him certain things, if I should let him kiss me, I am more worried about what's right then having a good time! Well I gave up on worrying about an hour into it and just said okay, if I am going to do this I am going to do it my way. So I just was myself, and I did what felt right to me. But I still wonder why we have so many things of what is right and wrong in societies eyes, and why even though I don't believe in them I still find myself trying to follow them. Sex is a no no, kissing should be perfect and not right away, you get into a relationship when you think you could be with that person for a long time. I grew up just knowing these things, but now its more and more difficult to follow them. I am not saying I am going out and whoring myself about or anything, but really now I am trying to have fun and get to know people, I don't like how everything still tries to keep everything down. This is probably a huge random post but somehow it does make sense to me. But yup, that was my confusing weekend of dating, but hey, I won and got the guy.

Hey now marriage isn't so bad!

While reading Marriage and Love all I could feel was the author resenting the idea of marriage and how it is "forced" upon us. She is saying how love does not always go with marriage, but I think it is apart of marriage more than she seems to think. There are different kinds of love so it is hugely possible that it is apart of marriage. You can have the passionate love that often does lead to marriage, or the friendship love that can happen after marriage. Often in arranged marriages the two people don't see or talk to each other before the marriage, but more often than not they do find love together through the marriage. Also, marriage is not forced on girls when we are little. Yes it is all around us, and most people do say that is the goal to life, but its not like everyone is saying we will die unless we get married. It seems that the author is stuck in the past and I just didn't like or agree with this article.

Lets just get this all out there

While reading the article all about "the big O" I couldn't help but sit there and laugh, yet agree. We all have these grand ideas in our heads for sex while we are virgins, we hear many things, read and see many things. But how many of us actually experience anything like any of those? I am not gonna get into my sex life with you all don't worry but it just really made me wonder why there are so many stories that psych us out for things, we should just wait and it probably would be better anyways.
On another note, halloween is soon coming, the proof is not only on the calendar but that my entire floor smells of pumpkins. I don't have anything else to say about work, I am done there now, didn't have to work for the last weekend because I have been so sick. But I have noticed plenty of things on facebook and just walking around campus. It seems that not as many girls as I thought are going to be slutty this year, which is surprising, but good (we don't need to see all that). Also, I have seen a lot of men out there taking more risks.
One last note, it is breast cancer awareness month, so I thought it should be brought up because it is something that has or will affect us all. Here is some more all about what we can do!